Love is patient
Pecking away at your relationship keeps it from reaching the heights of happiness God planned for you and your spouse. Someone wisely observed, ’Before you criticize your spouse’s taste, remember, they chose you.’ You say, “But I’m just stating the facts.’
Our Marriages are damaged not by big things such as abuse, abandonment or infidelity, but little things such as lack of respect, criticism, and taking each other for granted.
Nagging doesn’t work; it only tears down your spouse’s self-worth and security. People change only when they feel validated and understood.
The Bible says,’Love is patient and kind.’ Instead of pecking, recall the qualities that attracted you to your spouse, build on them, and bring out the best in them. If you don’t, who will? Paul writes, ‘Finally, brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy—meditate on these things’ (Philippians 4:8 NKJV).If you plan to stay married and be happy, these are time-tested principles.
